Updated: Sep 1, 2021
You married until death do us part... Only to find yourself become a statistic. Now you are among the 41% of first marriages that end in divorce, 60% of second marriages, and 73% of third (Gilbert, 2021).
2019 had the lowest divorce and marriage rates in 50 years (Wang, 2020). Finances appear to be a significant player in the reasons behind the decline. Wang (2020) notes that being unable to afford a wedding and lack of stable employment are among the top reasons behind the decrease in marriages. Likewise, couples struggling financially cannot afford the average divorce cost of $11,300.00 (Gilbert, 2021).
And yet, “every 13 seconds, there is a divorce in America” (Wilkinson & Finkbeiner, 2020).
How can a Christian navigate this process without compounding the sinfulness of the situation?
Without speculating on the reason(s) you find yourself in the quagmire of divorce and refusing to stir the waters of judgment, how are you honoring God during this ungodly process?
In the words of a friend of mine, “I didn’t know that was a thing.” Another said, “The thought never crossed my mind about seeking biblical counsel in that scenario [divorce].”
The bible was not given to us to teach us how to live holy and honor God in a perfect world where everything goes our way and according to our plan. It was given to us, so we could begin to understand God’s character, see His heart, and learn to imitate Him as beloved children (Eph. 5:1-3) right here in this fallen, broken, diseased, corrupt world.
So, yes, it’s a thing. You can honor God while walking through the ungodly process of divorce.
Assuming you have done all you can to reconcile and divorce is inevitable, seeking wise counsel (in addition to your attorney) is a must to set yourself up for success (Pro. 11:14). Assets do not measure success in this arena. It is measured by honoring God, maintaining your integrity, not compromising your character, and safeguarding your child(ren).
This blog series will explore biblical ways to honor God and conduct yourself during this very trying time in your journey. For personalized support, schedule an appointment. In the future, we will explore the following steps to success:
· Protect Your Child(ren) (I Kings 3:16-28)
Angela W. Startz, MAHSC, CCLC
Gilbert, N. (2021). 106 Divorce Statistics You Can’t Ignore: 2021 Divorce Rates and Impact on Children. Financesonline.com
Wang, W. (2020, November 10). The U.S. divorce rate has hit a 50-year low. IFS.
Wilkinson & Finkbeiner. (2020). Divorce statistics: Over 115 studies, facts, and rates for 2020. Wilkinson & Finkbeiner.